Forgiving yourself is a big part of healing unworthiness. You have to forgive yourself for feeling unworthiness, and you can’t forgive yourself unless you allow yourself to feel tenderness, kindness, love, and compassion.

Forgiveness comes from a kind of wisdom that sees that we don’t really know what we’re doing. Jesus said, “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.” It takes humility to forgive yourself, including your mind and your emotions.

You can project unworthiness onto everyone around you. There are lots of strategies that we use to avoid encountering unworthiness directly.
With consciousness comes options, and with options, you have to take responsibility: “What options am I going to start to utilize? Am I going to choose to be angry, compassionate, kind, or wise? Where am I going to operate from — the conflicted mind, or from some sort of stability?” It’s always wise to choose kindness.

Ultimately unworthiness is a form of attacking yourself. It is being very unloving and not being understanding. To stop attacking yourself takes a kind of humility — sometimes we just need to see what we’re doing.

Adyashanti
Way of Liberating Insight Course
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9 thoughts on “The Wisdom of Forgiving Yourself

  1. There is forgiveness in spanking, but I know it is hard for you to wrap your head around that. You are so right. It's in the heart, even when you can rationalize it, it's only the heart that truly and completely can forgive.
    You can grow in love if you can forgive. To truly live, you must truly love.

    I think.
    Wonderful comment,
    Han

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  2. Smile,..
    I must be missing something..
    Smile.
    Which teacher or phylosopher is talking about gorgivibg by hand?
    No Jesus, no Gandhi, no your favorite Aduashanti..
    It must be some exorcist one ..
    Smile.

    Mona Lisa

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  3. Wonderful post…..forgiving is often not easy. Accepting forgiveness is often not easy…..both are needed to move on and be whole. And…for those of us so wired….a strong hand often helps…
    hugs abby

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  4. I agree with Abby…I have less trouble forgiving someone else than forgiving myself or accepting forgiveness. And yes…Matthews strong hand did help. 😉

    Hugs and blessings…Cat

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